It's been months since the last time I write, It was really hard to think of something else worth sharing when you're destructed, down and hurt.
I am going through a lot and changes are inevitable and so does this pain I guess....
Since heart's day is fast approaching today I want to talk about..
I am going through a lot and changes are inevitable and so does this pain I guess....
Since heart's day is fast approaching today I want to talk about..
Dealing with broken Relationships
All of us are unique in our own way and that is what is so interesting about the world and the relationships we have. However, those differences can also lead to some tough times with those that we care about the most. There are times when the actions we take or even actions we fail to take put a huge wedge in a friendship, an intimate relationship, or they create tension with family.
Life is too short to give up on those relationships. If you are upset and hurting about what has happened it is time to speak from the heart and try to make things right. Now, you may be saying that yes you did have a falling out but it wasn’t do to what you did or said. Instead, it has to do with something by the other party. Regardless you can be the one that extends the olive branch.
Emotions can run very high when there is a conflict so it is best to give each other time to cool off. Try to keep things in perspective and don’t read more into the situation than what really happened. Think about your own reaction too. For example where you hurt but came across as being angry? Were you stressed out over something at work but blew your top on a great friend who is always there for you?
Once you have logic on your side you can make a plan of action. If you want to make a relationship better though you need a sincere apology. You can send a letter, make a phone call, or even send flowers. You don’t want to confront that person in front of their family or at work though. Make it a one on one opportunity.
If you aren’t sure if the other party will respond well to your extension of friendship then a letter may be best. You can give them your contact information and tell them that you would love to hear from them if they want to talk. Hopefully they will but if not you have taken the high road.
When something happens and you don’t think you were at fault stick to the positive. Start out by saying that you value the relationship and that it is bothering you that there is a problem. Be honest about what you see is the problem and what you feel would be the way to resolve it. Then be willing to really listen to what the other party has to say too. You will be surprised at how much both of you learn in the process.
Life can be full of regrets but don’t let the problems that have occurred in relationships stop you from enjoying things. Each day is a new beginning and you won’t know how someone is going to react to you until you contact them. There is a very good chance they would love the relationship to work out too. Now is the time to think about what you would like to stay and get those wheels in motion. Take control over how your relationships will be and you will truly be a happier person.
Life is too short to give up on those relationships. If you are upset and hurting about what has happened it is time to speak from the heart and try to make things right. Now, you may be saying that yes you did have a falling out but it wasn’t do to what you did or said. Instead, it has to do with something by the other party. Regardless you can be the one that extends the olive branch.
Emotions can run very high when there is a conflict so it is best to give each other time to cool off. Try to keep things in perspective and don’t read more into the situation than what really happened. Think about your own reaction too. For example where you hurt but came across as being angry? Were you stressed out over something at work but blew your top on a great friend who is always there for you?
Once you have logic on your side you can make a plan of action. If you want to make a relationship better though you need a sincere apology. You can send a letter, make a phone call, or even send flowers. You don’t want to confront that person in front of their family or at work though. Make it a one on one opportunity.
If you aren’t sure if the other party will respond well to your extension of friendship then a letter may be best. You can give them your contact information and tell them that you would love to hear from them if they want to talk. Hopefully they will but if not you have taken the high road.
When something happens and you don’t think you were at fault stick to the positive. Start out by saying that you value the relationship and that it is bothering you that there is a problem. Be honest about what you see is the problem and what you feel would be the way to resolve it. Then be willing to really listen to what the other party has to say too. You will be surprised at how much both of you learn in the process.
Life can be full of regrets but don’t let the problems that have occurred in relationships stop you from enjoying things. Each day is a new beginning and you won’t know how someone is going to react to you until you contact them. There is a very good chance they would love the relationship to work out too. Now is the time to think about what you would like to stay and get those wheels in motion. Take control over how your relationships will be and you will truly be a happier person.
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